The Shape of Our Days

There’s always a lot of talk in Montessori groups about routine and rhythm. It should come as no surprise that we’re slowly rebuilding our routines this week, after I took a couple week’s off to make some changes in my life – namely my career but also in my own fitness.  While I’m fairly settled in my new routine, I needed to figure out how Bella fits into it.

weekly visual schedule

I started by making a visual calendar.  Now, we’ve always used a visual calendar but I modified this version to include two activities per day – which was really a little prompt to remind myself that the day doesn’t end with the nap!  I should note that our ‘activities’ range from classes like forest school and cycling, to things we choose to do in our time like swimming and going to the park, to normal household activities like shopping and baking.

I posted on Instagram how much the visual calendar has helped us shape the feel of our week, but now I’m starting to feel the daily routine come together too.

A lot of people prioritise morning and breakfast time to sit down and work together, and rightly so because the brain is fresh then. But it doesn’t suit us, because I wake up and do a home workout immediately, while Bella eats breakfast.  This is really important because I wouldn’t workout at any other time of day, and it coincides with Bella having an activity that she can undertake almost entirely independently.  Three cheers for Montessori self-serve areas!

picnic lunch

Afterwards, we go back upstairs and wash and dress. By this time, it’s usually time to head out the door – whether to a playdate, the shops, the park, or in today’s case, forest school.  Another one of my fitness goals is to walk 10,000 steps, so I try my best to forego the car and get moving.  Bella loves walking at the moment, so it’s often a leisurely stroll down the various side roads – stopping to smell the flowers, collect petals, wave at dogs and stroke kitties.  We get back for lunch and this is often my favourite part of the day. Bella has really taken to having a picnic lunch outside and now we do it every day!

I’ve discovered that after lunch, sitting in that lovely spot of shade in our garden, that is our learning time. We observe nature – smell the jasmine growing, watch butterflies and ants, collect leaves. We also pull out the language objects and play sound games, as in the photo. I figure I’ll mix it up each day, maybe doing art or poetry or counting – whatever Bella’s into at the moment.

sound games after lunch

It comes to an end when Bella loses interest, and then we head inside for a nap.  It’s made the naptime transition much easier, as she’s starting to learning that this is just what happens when we come inside.

The time after nap hasn’t quite come together yet.  This used to be snack time and I’ve let that falter.  I’d like to get back to a proper afternoon tea – we used to make mint tea together, right from choosing the leaves from the plant plant, etc, but frankly it’s too hot now.  I’ve been pondering with making our own smoothies, which I may do after we go strawberry and raspberry picking this weekend.  And then we sit, and eat whatever snack we baked for the week (this week is cheese and bacon muffins), and avail ourselves of the time for a bit more learning.

Ideally, I’d like to make it Bengali time – we’ll read a couple books in Bengali, speak Bengali, Skype my mother, etc.  Unfortunately Bella only let me read her one book yesterday before getting frustrated, but as always, it’s a work in progress and the more we do it, the longer she’ll be able to handle (fingers crossed).

After that, it’s basically free play until Daddy comes home.  If it’s been a low day for the steps, I’ll often pop out for a quick walk by myself while Daddy takes over, or I’ll start making dinner.  On a good day, I just step back and pull out my Kindle, while Bella plays with her dad.

We have dinner, then tidy up, Bella has a bath, followed by books and bedtime, and then the rest of the evening is ours.  Whew!

A Day in the Life

A lot of homeschooling starts by talking about rhythm and routine, so I decided to take a step back and look at ours.  Monday is always a good day, because I try to take some time on Sunday evening to look at the week ahead and plan activities.  Here goes!

Bella sleeps in a toddler bed and can get out on her own.  There’s a stairgate preventing her from going downstairs, but my preference is for her to join me in my bed (my husband is long gone, having woken up at 5.45am).  This is the only part of the day that I sometimes feel guilty about, because she’s up and playing while I’m struggling to wake up.  I am not a morning person though, and finding a way to let myself to rest means that I’m a much better person and mother for the whole day, so I’ve largely made my peace with it.

Today, she found various jars of mine and practiced screwing the lids on and off, while I slowly got my act together.

We both got washed and dressed and then headed downstairs .  Bella chooses her own clothes, but I often have to influence decisions that aren’t weather-appropriate.  I haven’t quite figured out a way to have a subset of her wardrobe of only acceptable choices available to her.

Bella has cereal for breakfast and eats at her low table.  I present her with a bowl of dry cereal, an empty glass, and a jug of milk.  She gets to pour the milk where she wants.  Today, she poured milk in her cereal, picked out the cereal and then poured the milk from the bowl to her glass.  Obviously, milk went everywhere, but there was a damp cloth ready for her to wipe up with.

Eating breakfast

When she’s finished, she washes her hands using the “running water” in her water dispenser.  There’s a small piece of bar soap that she can use as well.

Washing hands

After breakfast, we water the plants.  I fill up the watering can, and then Bella walks it over to the birds of paradise plant and gets to work.  She loves watering.

Watering plants

She asked to go outside at that point, but I asked her if she would like to do some art… and she said yes!  We’re in the middle of birthday season, where it’s her and her 6 NCT friends’ second birthdays, and we’re making cards for them all.  Her art supplies are currently contained within one side of her Ikea Flisat table (how I love this table), and before I knew it, she’d gotten a pot out and filled it up with water.  It was time for watercolour painting!

Flisat table – art supplies on the left and Duplo on the right

carrying water

painting!

After she finished painting the birthday card, she asked again to go outside and this time I cracked the back door open.  It was around 9am.

“sawing” a tree like grandpa on the weekend

While she ran around, I put some verbiage on the card.  We had free play for an hour, at which point I started to get ready to head out.  We were going to try a new music class that was located around the corner, but unfortunately while it was convenient, that was the only good thing going for it.  I do really like having a class or activity/playdate on in the morning, it just helps get us out of the house and ensure we’re not pottering about aimlessly too much.  Our schedule for this week:

Monday – the awful “music” class
Tuesday – Bella’s birthday party!
Wednesday – Forest school
Thursday – free day, depending on the weather we may go to the sand park
Friday – I’m working; Bella will be looked after by my mother-in-law

having a little run around

When the class ended, we continued on out to the shops.  Every Monday, we buy food for the week.  I like to source our food as locally as possible, so we visited the local veg shop, the local butchers, and then had to go to the local Co-op because we lack a fishmongers.  Bella knows all of these shops well, and I hope that as she grows, she’ll join me in looking at the food available, learning about what’s in season, and choosing what we’ll purchase.

We eventually made it home at 12pm, and got lunch on, with Bella helping to make herself an omelette.  Then there was another hour of free play (see bubbles below!) followed by a nap.

bubbles

Nap time is so important for me.  I get to recharge (today I watched on the latest episode of The Good Fight), I get to do personal admin (I had to book my car in for a service), and I get to do work of my own choosing (today it was this blog post).  I keep wondering when Bella will drop her nap, and how I’ll manage.  I know that I’ll need to instate “quiet time” of some sort, but I need to really think about how that’ll look.

After she wakes up, we’ll hopefully bake – I have my eye on using up an overripe banana to make a banana butterscotch pudding – and there’ll be more free play until daddy comes home.  We’ll continue to play, eat dinner as a family, play some more, and finally head up for the bedtime routine.  First a bath, then books, and then to sleep.

Learning time

Last week my homeschooling course consisted of a lot of discussion about routine and rhythm.  This was a great exercise, because I got to analyse what we actually do and what I wanted to do, and make some concrete steps towards bridging the gap.

The main thing I realised was that we have a lot of free play.  And that’s great!  We’re looking at three hours of free play on a busy day, i.e. one where we have an activity on for a couple hours in the morning.  I feel really good about that, because while we do have a lot of activities on, that’s still a lot of self-directed play time.  Bella’s great at independent play and that has immediately answered some of my own questions about why that’s the case.

The thing that keeps coming up now is learning.  We’re at the age (21 months, approaching that second birthday) where people start talking about formal learning.  I have friends eagerly teaching numbers, letters, etc.  I’m one of them – every morning I work hard to get our Bengali time in.  But fundamentally, I don’t want our days to be full of lessons. I just want to make sure that Bella has the opportunity to explore activities with certain outcomes.  If she’s not interested, fine, but if she is – well, we’ll never know if we don’t give her the chance first!

What does that really mean?  How do you do this in a child-led way?

farm animal matching

Here’s an example.  Today, after breakfast, we settled into the living room and Bella naturally started playing with the toys on her shelves.  One shelf has her farm animals, and laminated photos of those same animals.  Before we knew it, we were matching the wooden farm animals with their photos.  Object-to-picture matching is one of those pre-numeracy skills, and a fun one for toddlers too.  That’s the reason that Montessori shelves are so popular: it’s the ease of having these lovely invitations to work available for children to choose independently.

After further playtime (which included a tea party with a china set, also on a shelf – not sure if that one can stay out; I worry about it breaking an awful lot!) we headed out to the swimming pool.  And then I spied my second opportunity for a bit of learning. Bella normally demands songs to be sung to her in the car, but I thought I’d try to entertain her in a different way, as I had the opportunity to sit in the backseat while my husband drove.

I introduced these Emotions cards to Bella a couple weeks ago, and she loooooved them.  Most children love seeing photos of other children, and the fun expressions just add to the enjoyment.  Bella has a couple that she’ll copy, and there are a couple others that clearly still thwart her.  It’s a great way to introduce vocabulary, and also discuss those big feelings that toddlers often have.  Bella already says “baby sad” when she’s feeling upset, which is great, but I’d love it if we could work on angry, surprised, etc.

So I brought the cards along, and for 20 minutes we chatted our way through them.  It was a lovely way to spend a car journey, and a great 20 minute so-called learning session that may not have occurred otherwise in our day.

The moments are often there – it’s just a matter of being able to grab them when they come up.